Why Is It So Hard To Ask For What We Want In Relationships?

Why is it so hard to ask for what we want in relationships?

1. The most important thing you must do is figure out what you want and how to go about getting it. There are many people that don’t know how to ask for what they want. 

Additionally, there are many people that don’t know what they want generally. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner for something. In a healthy relationship, he will want to give it you. He will want to make you feel good in every possible way.

2. When you ask him for something, ask him in a way that he can understand. Tell him what you are feeling and what you expect out of certain situations. 

Select a time that you both have some free time without any distractions. Tell him what you are requesting and the reasons for the request. He should not get upset with you unless you are asking for something unreasonable.

3. Be clear with your request. Don’t beat around the bush. I know many couples that do that because they are afraid of how their partner is going to react. If that is the case, then perhaps you should rethink the relationship. He is your counterpart, therefore he should understand your needs and wants.

Will he really change for us?

Dating someone new can be fun, exciting, and adventurous, despite the inevitable ups and downs. It is when the level of excitement tapers off and finally meets complacency when we truly get to observe his habits, attitudes, opinions, and beliefs. 

Most of the time, there is something that we want to change about him whether it is his hairstyle, the way he eats spinach, the way he drives the car, the way he blows his nose, or the way he ties his shoes.

Men will not change unless the change is important to them. If he does change for the sake of someone else, it is only temporary. Remember,  he will always revert back to old  habits if he doesn’t want to change them permanently.